Perhaps you and your partner are arguing about the stupidest things, and these arguments quickly escalate into something nasty. Maybe your relationship feels stale, and if the two of you were not so busy leading separate lives, you feel you would die of boredom. Sometimes there is a big issue - such as money, sex, infidelity, in-laws or children— and you just cannot get your partner to understand your viewpoint.
Facing relationship obstacles alone can be daunting. Through couples therapy, I can help you improve the quality of your relationship and your life. Although therapy probably isn’t an experience you're excited about, it might not be as bad as it sounds. If you're a little worried about what might happen, here are a few things you can expect.
Couples therapy is a process of identifying interaction and communication patterns that are negatively impacting the friendship, intimacy, and fulfillment of needs of one or both partners in a couple. During couples therapy, each partner will be asked to honestly examine his/her own interaction and communication styles, identify and express their own vulnerabilities, and experiment with alternative methods of communicating and interacting. I will guide each partner to further clarify his/her own values and level of commitment to the relationship.
Research shows that couples therapy has a number of benefits, including enhanced satisfaction with the relationship or increased clarity about the decision to part ways. Therapy often leads to enhanced relationships, solutions to specific problems, and significant reductions in feelings of distress.
I have worked with couples in therapy on a variety of issues, including:
Emotional & physical intimacy
Frequent conflict and arguments
Poor or ineffective communication
Feeling emotionally distant, disconnected or dissatisfied
Decreased levels or interest in intimacy or sex
Infidelity (emotional or physical affairs) and/or Betrayals
Life transitions (changes in employment, retirement, empty nesting, geographical moves, grief/loss)